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Can Threesomes Hurt Relationships?

 Threesomes hurt relationships…

…says Dr. Karen Ruskin.  It’s understandable for couples to want to fulfill their fantasies, but they are not thinking about the long-term effects. Threesomes hurt relationships because the couple is seeking answers outside of the monogamous partnership. They have lost trust that their partner is capable of filling their highest sexual desires. “It is relationship suicide and a problem just waiting to negatively impact the emotional welfare of self, other, the couple, and if you have children, your children as well (Dr. Ruskin).”

It’s true that mostly men want another woman in their bed, but women have these same desires too. Even so, after inviting someone in the bedroom most couples report they have regretted it. Often one of the partners falls in love or become infatuated with the third person which eventually causes the relationship to crumble.

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Once you are committed a threesome might be one of those things that you just shouldn’t do anymore. It’s an unwritten taboo like flirting, staying out until 3am and having your buddies over everyday. Perhaps with the assistance of a sex therapist this fantasy can live out and become dissolved successfully by first building a strong sense of security. However, consider this – failure in a relationship is 90%  after threesomes according to Dr. Drew. In fact, once a couple decides to let someone else in, there is a strong indication that there are already problems brewing.

Experts say to keep bringing new things in the bedroom and explore as many options as possible without bringing someone else in your intimate moments.  If the need continues maybe it is time for couples’ therapy in order to tackle the real issues. There are over thousands of different ways to keep your relationship spicy. Spontaneity, toys, role playing and food are just a few things to add to the bedroom.

I know warnings are not going to mean much if both of you really want it to happen. Just make sure to talk it out with a professional therapist before the plunge so everything is clear and no feelings are hurt. You and your partner’s happiness is far more important to ignore boiling fantasies. Talk to each other without judgment and think of alternatives. Share feelings about threesomes that are honest.

Reference
Pinsky, D. (2012) Thressomes don’t work. CNN.com. Retrieved on May 6, 2015 from: http://www.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/1206/13/ddhln.01.html
Ruskin, K. (2011) Open relationships – expert advice. Dr. Ruskin and Associates, Inc. Retrieved on May 6, 2015 from: http://www.drkarenruskin.com/open-relationships-expert-advice/

Author: Jessica Brown

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